For those of you who follow me on Twitter you know that I went out with a guy named Marty last week… as you all aptly named him… McFly.
I’ve told you all that this is the year I’m going rogue. I’m going off my “list“ to see if maybe my type isn’t really “my type.”
So, a guy that favorited me months ago on Match.com was persistent enough to ask me out again and I was open enough in 2012 to say yes. How off my list was he, you ask? VERY. I prefer tall(er)… he was 5’7. I’m 5’7 with my everyday heals on. I prefer close to my age… He was 8 years older than me. I prefer dark hair… he was somewhere between dirty blonde and grey. I prefer athletic… he was “a few extra pounds.” Maybe I went a little too rogue, but I’m trying!
* Please note, my date was not nearly as cute as Mr. Michael J. Fox! But, McFly was awkward in these movies and on my date!
In our email exchange I asked is he wanted to get a glass of wine somewhere when we met up. His response, “I’m allergic to wine.” Oh my…
So, we ended up meeting up a dive bar on the west side. There were a few things I liked and a few things I hated about this date.
Likes: cute place – even though very divy, happy hour prices, good lighting (yes, it was after work so I didn’t have to worry about how my post day face looked in the light!), the conversation about online dating got very interesting!
Dislikes: no parking – NONE – so I had to park on the street, walk down an alley and pray for my safety. We also sat in a room decorated by scary dolls. It was like being in a horror movie.
(NOTE: Boys, when planning a date, please keep parking into consideration! I had so much parking rage that by the time I sat down I NEEDED that cocktail!)
McFly was a lot like his character… a little socially inept, sweet, but awkward and really needed some help in the conversation portion of our date. 20 minutes in I felt like I was an HR person interviewing a new intern. Finally, our conversation began to flow once we realized we went to the same college, but then it was a lot of, “When I was your age…”
All and all, it was a fine “date” and it got very interesting when we dove into the ins and outs of Match.com. He had no idea that guys take pictures of themselves with their shirts off in their bathroom mirrors (even though they shouldn’t) and I had no idea girls do the same thing! Now, I’m thinking I must look like effin’ PollyAnna on my profile!
The night ended when he walked me to my car and I told him I thought he should check out eharmony and see if maybe their matching algorithm could find him someone better than me. Yes. Seriously.
The search continues…
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How did he take your advice? I’m thinking he knew he was in over his head, and you were out of his league.
On a side note, I hated eHarmony. You can only chat with people they match you up with, you can’t actively search yourself. My favorite dating site, by far, was OK Cupid.
He actually took my advice really well and I was really happy to hear the advice he gave me! As a online dating blogger, I think I need to check out more women’s profiles and see how women chose to present themselves. As for the sites, I’m giving eharmony another try. So far, I’ve been matched with my ex-boyfriend and a few guys that I’ve seen on match.com. We’ll see what happens! Are you still single?
Actually, no. I met someone great on OK Cupid last September. Of course I went on about a dozen dates before finding him. (The eHarmony thing was before I came to terms with my sexuality).
I checked out other peoples’ profiles to see what they did, and I learned how to make my profile more captivating, and a also learned a whole lot more about what not to do
Good luck. I love your blog.