In the last month alone, three (3!!!) past co-workers have reached out to me on Match.com and OkCupid. I don’t get it… Just because you know someone online, you both happen to be single and ready to mingle, does NOT mean you should ask them out on a date. Especially when you’re in your 30s/ 40s and are most likely looking for more than to just get laid.
Here’s the most recent email exchange from a co-worker…
Email from Him:
Subject: Look Who it Is?!
Well, well, well, if it isn’t my old cubicle neighbor from XX?! How have you been??? Sounds like you are doing great now that you are not at XX anymore. Give me a shout…
Email #2 – 24 hours later:
Subject: Really?
I am a little hurt that you didn’t even respond to my email. You are in LA, I am in LA, so it would only be right for us to go grab a drink. Hope to hear back.
Email from Me:
RE: Really?
Dear XX,
Best of luck in your search!
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I don’t know, I have had some success with this in the past. You mean you’ve never had any heat with a co-worker? A married former co-worker and I totally had the hots for each other since day one. She was a church-going girl and I not yet PFC, so nothing happened. Then I ran into her one day about three years later, we had drinks, innocently wound up in my apartment, and when I tried to escort her to her car like a gentleman, she barricaded herself in front of the apartment door and demanded: “you aren’t going anywhere until you fuck me.” And so I had no choice but to comply. One of the best experiences of my life. It’s always the quiet/proper ones that surprise me. Maybe y’all should let go a bit and live a little!
Oh… no, no. These are co-workers who are not only not attractive, but who I also found annoying. No go for me, but glad it worked out for you! Thank you for commenting on my blog and not being a dick about anything!
I hate to agree with PFC, but I have hooked up with 3 co-workers over the years. One wound up being a relationship and the hardest part was hiding it. The other ones were meaningless sex and lots of awkwardness after.
I bet he didn’t see that coming.
But you what, it was clear & to the point. The way a rejection should be.
I’m so tired of guys thinking that just because a woman is single, he’s got a chance. Especially when he already knows you, as if it were some come of “up” he has on the rest of them. Uh, news flash – if I knew you (in your case, worked BESIDE you EVERYDAY for xx amount of years and STILL nothing happened, not only do you not have an “up” on the rest of ‘em, but in fact you are even further down behind them.
Gosh, is it really THAT complicated?
Good girl.