2 Guys, 1 Girl… the latest online dating trend?

Yes, I suppose I should be blogging about Valentine’s Day right now, but I’m not celebrating it, so I don’t give a crap about the holiday. Instead, I thought I would dive into this interesting new trend I’m running in to in online dating.

The trend… 2 guys looking for a girlfriend to share.  Take that in for a minute… A girlfriend. To. Share.

Now, because I always want to be informed and I’m the most curious (some might say nosey!), person in the world, I have, of course, wanted to learn more.  But, the thing is, this isn’t my thing.  I get jealous of women who have married my ex-boyfriends.  I would NOT do well sharing something physically and emotionally.

I ran across this profile on OkCupid.  Note: They have changed their screen name SEVERAL times, but normally it’s along the lines of “2dudes4u.”  This is what their profile says:

About me:
We are two straight gentleman looking for a discreet, ongoing and intimate relationship with a woman that we both can share. We only want one woman; someone sweet and nice like us who understands what we are looking for. We focus completely on you, Four hands all over your body, two tongues licking you and eventually when you can’t take it anymore both of us making love to you. We like it slow, sensual, both of us inside you at the same time, one in each. Many women find this to be the best kind of sex they can have. We know that not only is it hard to find, but it’s not something you need anyone knowing about. You can count on us to keep it totally confidential and secret. We are fully aware that some women need this occasionally, and some women can’t orgasm any other way. Even if you are involved in a relationship and would like to maintain it we are totally fine with it and have similar situations ourselves. You don’t have to worry about anyone finding out. This is an incredibly intimate thing, the most intimate thing a woman can do. It’s not very compatible with normal relationships, nonetheless it is something some of us need.

Both of us are good looking, 5ft 11, nice and not too small or big. We can chat, on here, or on the phone with you a bit first to make sure we are all on the same page. We are looking for a nice woman, someone who deserves us. (Note, they are looking for a “nice” woman.)

As soon as we meet you, we are going to take this profile down. We only want one, special girl. We won’t tie you down either, you can be who you want to be. And tell us about everything, be honest with us about everything.

The first things people usually notice about me:

The most private thing I’m willing to admit:
We are actually two romantic sweethearts who love making a girl feel as good as she can.

You should message me if:
You are interested in something with both of us.

Especially if you have ever fantasized about making love to two men or dp, we are the guys for you. We are really nice, sweet and we want something ongoing. Nobody will find out, yet we want it to be intimate and loving. We want you to feel safer than ever, more desired, more satisfied and more complete.

Ok, so it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to get that this is all about sex.  And, if this is your thing – these guys aren’t bad looking, go for it!

This is another one I ran into (there are several of these out there). Please note, one of these guys is “The Guy Who Didn’t Know He Was Bi”  from Tinder who I was chatting with in December (not the one pictured).  I wonder if he’s still trying to figure that out…

IMG_3481Thoughts on this?  Do you think there should be a new online dating category for this? A new app? Is anyone else seeing this trend?

So far 2014 is off to an interesting start… married guys and guys looking for a DP (yes, I had to look up what that was) threesome.  What happened to finding your lobster? (If you don’t know this Friends reference, look it up and start watching reruns.)



  1. Let’s not mistake anything about this for “dating.” This is strictly sex-trolling. I’ve had a few threesomes and they are definitely pretty cool. The thing is, it’s gotta be spontaneous. Can’t be planned, can’t be relationship-y, definitely shouldn’t be with a good friend just to try it out. Never been 2-1 with a woman & another dude. If drunk enough I might try it as long as it’s clear no swords are crossing. Hetero is hetero, what can I say. These guys are suspect, probably looking to abduct someone into white slavery, er, human trafficking. This is NOT the way to venture into DP, Emily.

  2. I’ve never been in a threesome but have definitely fantasized about being with two guys! Don’t think I’d respond to these guys but in the right situation I would totally try it! What about you Emily?

    1. I’ve honestly thought about a threesome (who hasn’t?), but I’m such a jealous person I know it would be a bad idea. Also, if it was something I was going to do, I should’ve done it 10 years ago when everything was a little more perky. 🙂

    1. This is a perfect example of “to each is their own.” I don’t shame anyone for what they like in the bedroom, but DP isn’t for me! My big question is though… shouldn’t there be an app for this need? Sounds like it would be successful, no?

    2. So judgy Mel. Never thought I would do a threesome and wound up in a DP situation with my HS friend’s little bro a few years ago that I wrote about here. It was exhilarating and a bit scary but what an experience. Maybe they trashed me as the town whore but I don’t think so. I did some things I never thought I would do like take two guys in me at one time and letting one watch while the other took me. It is something I will never forget and it wasn’t degrading the guys were as excited and nervous as I was. Not saying I’d do it often or even again but it really was an amazing experience. Oh and the, ummmm, forbidden sex didn’t hurt like people said it would. Thanks Emily for having a forum for this kind of stuff.

    3. Ha you goooo Addy. I’ve had a couple of threesomes and even one foursome! One threesome was with two guys so amazing like you described. Another was with a girlfriend of mine and a super hot guy we both wanted bad. The foursome was two girls and two guys imagine naked twister with body parts everywhere. I don’t care what anyone says, having two men in my hands and other places was the ultimate! Being with a girl was surprisingly so soft and lovely I totally get why guys love it. Maybe I’m a whore maybe just a free spirit. At least I’m livin’ while I’m young that’s how I look at it.

    4. Halle-LU-jah! Girl, you know how to PARTY! I might need to take a trip back east. Emily, you could learn a thing or two from EastCoast. Or from your very own PFC 🙂

  3. I just heard about this website – pretty racy topics you have here! My gf’s always talk about 3sums but none of us have ever done it. Just with each other and a guy not two guys though. Wonder if most people are all talk. Cam sounds sleezy and looks gay not straight.

  4. Trying too hard maybe EastCoast? Jeez, I feel like a prude compared to you. I like my men one at a time please. Preferably moving toward a LTR. No experimental muff-diving for me. What the hell is going on in the world these days?

    1. I got hit up AGAIN this past weekend by two guys looking for a threesome. Their name? TwoFunGuys. It’s definitely a thing! 🙂 Their profile reads “We are two fun guys. I’m French and 28, my friend is Indian and 38. We both workout and are very good looking. We are looking for casual fun with like minded women or individuals (WHAT?!?). Mostly, we are looking for a ‘cuckold’ scenario. If you don’t know what that means, this isn’t for you. Not looking for a relationship, not looking for anything serious. No exceptions, so please move on if you aren’t on the same page.”

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