Now that I’m back at it in the online dating world, I’ve started taking a closer look at my online dating patterns. Is it just the holiday months that make me feel like online dating is similar to window shopping or is that really what we’re all doing?
I’ve always said I think it’s hard to date around the holidays. People are feeling lonely, physically cold, frustrated that they are ending their year alone, but aren’t ready to jump into anything serious. Who wants to buy a gift for someone they’ve been dating for 2 weeks?
So, I don’t know if it’s the time of year or just the general outlook on dating now, but I feel like even when we’ve found someone that has some promise we’re all out there looking for the next best thing…
I remember being in high school and shopping for a dress for Homecoming. It was summer and I found an amazing dress while we were on vacation in San Francisco. My mom insisted that I get the dress. I told her it was bad luck to get the dress… if I had a dress, then I was jinxing myself and no one would ask me! Also, what if I found something better? In this instance, my mom was the wise one. I got the dress, got asked to Homecoming and it all worked out. But, if it was up to me, I would have been shopping for the perfect dress the morning of the dance.
I’m starting to feel like this is the exact same thing happening in the dating world. As I wrote a few weeks ago, I got set up on an amazing date. (We went on 3 more dates until he blew me off via text message right after Thanksgiving – post to come!) While we were hanging out I was struggling with whether or not I should be swiping right while I was just starting to date this new guy. We hadn’t had any talks about being exclusive, hadn’t slept together, and had only gone out a few times, but I continued to question… should I just be content with this going well in my life or should I be looking for something else if this doesn’t work out?
This post is feeling very Sex and The City with all the questions, but really… should we settle when we think we’re in a good place or should be looking for something better in case it doesn’t work out? BTW, I know what the answer is and what I should do, but honestly, how does everyone else deal with this situation? So far nothing has worked out, so is looking (not necessarily acting on anything, just looking) really harmful? Sound off below. I’m eager to hear your thoughts on this one.